I AM A JAMMUITE: Why Are We So Worried About Others’ Name and Fame?

True fame is not in being noticed, but in being remembered—for the right reasons.

Anil Sharma

Growing up, many of us have heard this from our elders: “Don’t cut my nose in society—make me proud.”
My mother, a woman grounded in tradition and dignity, would often say this to me. Her intentions were loving, but her words carried the pressure of representing not just oneself, but an entire family name. In her eyes, standing tall in society meant having a good job, a reputable position, and being someone others talked about with pride.

And this belief isn’t rare. In our social fabric, success is often measured through external validation—through names that shine, jobs that impress, and money that speaks. As a result, we get caught in a comparison trap, constantly measuring our worth against others’ name and fame.

But sometimes, wisdom arrives from unexpected corners.

Once, my better half was advising my elder son about his studies. She said to him in frustration: “You never concentrate. See, so-and-so’s son is doing MBBS, another is at IIM. Our neighbours’ children are all doing well. What will I say to our relatives and friends? You’ll let us down if you don’t pick up now.”

To this, he quietly murmured a response that left us stunned:
“I’m not studying for them. I don’t want to show off strength—I want to build it. Please don’t compare me. Let me have my own dreams to pursue. You people always measure success with marks and money, not the conduct, service, and impact someone has on society.”

At such a tender age, his words held the maturity of a sage. That day, I realised the strength of individuality—how deeply rooted his values were, and how gracefully he was resisting the heavy pull of societal comparison.

Today, he’s pursuing a career of his choice, one that brings him satisfaction and dignity—not just in profession, but in purpose.

As part of society, it’s natural to be influenced. But when that influence starts to erode our self-worth, cloud our talents, or force us into someone else’s path, it becomes a burden. We must stop living for others’ applause and start living with inner conviction.

We need to celebrate being, not just becoming. To raise a generation that measures success not by trophies, but by truth. A generation that respects dreams over designations, values contribution over competition.

Let the achievements speak for themselves

True success doesn’t need to be thrust upon the world through media or self-promotion. It is remembered through genuine admiration and success.

Because true fame is not in being noticed, but in being remembered—for the right reasons.
Let stories of character, service, and silent perseverance be the ones future generations remember—not just the ones that trend for a moment in society and social media.

“Main jeeta hoon apni fitrat se,duniya kya kehti hai yeh uski soch hai.

Main duniya ko kya de sakta hoon,yeh meri soch hai.”

(I live by my nature to win, what the world thinks is their thought.

What I can give to the world that is my mindset.)