BY THE WAY: Adopt different Method of Parenting at Every Stage of Age
Dr. Noour Ali Zehgeer
Some half a century ago, parenting was something, which Gen Z will never understand today. Parents would dedicate their lives either to earning or planning future of their children. Parenting was all about responsibility and filled with emotions, especially for a mother as in those days she was mostly a homemaker. The technology, advanced medical facilities and word NANY or CRECHE was not in the dictionary of parenthood. It was simple love and care what parents used to give. Parents in the past were not driven by science or technology, they were completely driven by emotions and sense of ownness. In the process, sometime, they would not understand the child phycology and would undermine his or her abilities of decision-making.
Children’s ability to learn and understand changes at every stage of age from childhood to adolescence. There is a change in interests and behavior. In many cases, sensitivity is affected. In such a situation, it is important that the parents’ behavior, way of explaining and guiding should also change according to these steps.
The rule of 7-7-7 is related to understanding these changes related to parenting. Generally, a child is considered to be just a child. This means that children according to age should have different methods of understanding and explaining things, but there are not. We forget that the weather of childhood also changes at every stage of age. The learning ability to raise children changes. Their sensitivity is affected. Interests and inclinations change. There is a change in behavior. The rule of 7-7-7 is related to understanding these changes related to parenting. A lovely rule of parenting in which child rearing has been easily divided into three stages. Under this rule, 0-7 to seven years of age are allowed to play and play. Age group of 4 has been kept for teaching and understanding. For growing children, the years beyond this, i.e. 14-21 years, have been linked to providing guidance. In fact, all three stages hold lessons for the parents to behave with their children according to their age, teach them and give direction to their mind and life. balance of life skills.
The first stage is related to living childhood in complete innocence. This time of sports and the thrill of learning everything new is also a time of knowing and understanding lovely things related to life skills. children speaking at this time Let’s learn. Understands how to recognize one’s loved ones. Curiosity to know the things around them starts growing in their innocent minds. Due to which children learn to ask questions. Make friends. Many try to understand human emotions. The age of 0-7 to seven years is a very sweet time for parents also. Children start feeling emotions like happiness and fear. They become afraid of darkness or loneliness at this time. They are also afraid of being scolded if something breaks or breaks. In this age group, the child should grow up in everything.
That means we know how to follow others. Along with learning human behavior skills, this is also the time to lay the foundation for good health of children. It is a beautiful stage to live their childhood happily and teach them healthy eating habits and how to speak, walk and understand their surroundings. stage of fostering understanding and sensitivity the age group of 7-14 is meant for reading and developing correct understanding. These are also the years for understanding the academic inclinations of children. Time to give direction to seriousness towards studies and many things related to their life. It is also about creating correct understanding. Studies show that between the ages of nine and 12, children develop a sense of leadership and being ahead. Be it sports or studies, they react when left behind on any front. When we learn to share our problems, we connect deeply with parents and teachers. Apart from mood swings, they also get easily hurt emotionally during this time.
In such a situation, parents should not give any negative reaction directly. Explain your point with ease. Be sensitive to children’s feelings. as well as children Cultivate human feelings in your mind also. This age is also very important for connecting with the elders of the house, helping them and making connections with relatives. Guidance and morale boosting phase 14-21 is the period to provide right guidance to children. Parenting with scientific methods has become so visible now that onus of child behaviour is not on family but on what content he watches on social media, who shares the school or college bench and many more.
During this time, they enter adolescence into adulthood. That is why this age group is also very likely to give clear advice. This is the starting point of getting out of the house for studies and seeing the world. In such a situation, it is also necessary to maintain regular communication with the children. Studies also show that 13The age of 16 years is a stage of many important changes. During this time, children are not only worried about career and academic betterment but also struggle with many changes at the physical, mental, emotional and social levels. Children become aware of their own personality. A sense of understanding logical-practical aspects of life begins to emerge. They start understanding the meaning of their identity and their place in society, family or friend circle. This is a decisive stage that forms the foundation of life. as well as emotionally It is also a risky stage of breakdown. Cases of loss from life due to spontaneous attachment to someone, love affair, lagging behind in studies or falling alone are also more common at this age. Emotional support from parents is very important during this challenging time. In these years, there is a need to nurture children’s effective personality, healthy lifestyle and strong sensitivities. Children growth and his achievement has become a matter of public judgement and perception, although in reality it should have been a family issue or family point of view, unfortunately parenting is done while keeping in mind what society will see not what children want.
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